Hi T! Can I chime in too? Thanks for your kind words on my thread, the analogy of your friend really helped. You are always a font of wisdom ! I found this interesting too...
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My third friend just WA'ed from her beloved boyfriend of many years. I have hope for their reconciliation!! But it was really helpful to get her perspective. She told me that what happens is you feel overwhelmed, so overwhelmed that you just become numb, and then the numbness turns to ambivalence. Because it is so stressful to try to hold two opposing thoughts in your head (stay or go) you just pick one and go with it.
Wow...sounds about right. You have a lot of R experience between you and all your friends ! Thanks for your suggestion about biking, made me smile as my local shop here is like the old one...500 from my house! Perhaps I could cycle to this one instead of drive!? Actually, I manage to walk it these days, so I am really 180-ing there.
I wondered if you found any of the info I sent you useful and if you have made any decisions yet on any timescales for contacting your BF, are you still planning to at Spring break? (is that right??)
Well done on doing so well at college, I think you are really good at applying yourself to things..cello, piano, DBing, baking!
