Interesting day. H went to a party to watch the Daytona 500. A friend of ours has this party every year. In the past I have gone but D14 had friends over so I stayed home.
A hour or so after he left, H called me and told me OW was drinking and on the warpath. She told him she had emailed me twice. I checked my email but there was nothing from her. I told him I'd let him if I got anything. Just a short time later, the home phone rings and it's OW.
I'm thinking GREAT. I wasn't in a good mood today and she was the last person I wanted to deal with. So, I didn't answer the call. Thankfully D14 was busy with friends so she didn't pick up either.
OW called about 3 more times. Finally left a message complaining that I needed to call H. She was calling him but he was not answering, and by the way, "I'm not with him." I already knew that.
I called H and told him she was calling. He was very apologetic. Then he said, "you're amazing."
I was confused for a second and then asked, why am I amazing? He said, "for putting up with all of this. You've put up with a lot. I'm really sorry for all of this."
I told him he had no control over her. I also told him I was sorry. He told me I had nothing to be sorry for.
I didn't say it, but if we had not let our M get so off track, none of this would have happened, and that's what I'm sorry for. I'll have to tell him that...
He wasn't enjoying the party. He wanted me to come but I was not about to leave the house, and young teens alone! So he came home. OW never called again.
I really feel good about what he said. But sometimes I get overcome with anxiety because I just don't know what's going to happen with him, his sitch, and OW. This too shall pass. I hope the good Lord stays by my side through it all!
You are right Joie. Those doubting feelings will come and feel overwhelming. But focus on the memory of today, and the way you were a team, and you will get through it. I can see you healing from here. Hugs~!
