FLTC: FROM IRAQ

[Dom R]

Dom,

You're right. I do think detaching coupled with LOSS OF FEAR (not being irrational, but getting to the point where you really DON'T care) is important.

weeel... not be afraid, and not caring, are two different things.

that's the difficult difference between "detachment", and "done".

or to put it another way: you can CARE about the result, without being devastated if it doesnt go the way that you would prefer.
I personally think that is the more marriage-healthy way to go.