Oh wow.. Crystal Blue yes PLEASE get out!! You said you have no family or friends in that area - which tells me you should not only get out but go far away to be safe.

Are you in the US? Without getting too specific on location maybe tell us a state? I'm hoping that someone here may know of local resources that can help you.

It sounds like he's mentally ill and it's getting worse. That's common as people get older. My grandfather went from controlling (similar to how you describe your H) to flat out mean to violent and dangerous... it was weird to watch it happen. Please get out before something even more awful happens to you or the kids.

Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7
Bomb 1 10/07/06
Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15
Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07
Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate
2/08 slowly improving
7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!)
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