I am glad that the solution-journal can help you, as it has helped me emmensely.
About the age thing my H is only 28 and there is no doubt in my mind that he is in a MLC with a strong case of Depression, and he has turned into an alcoholic.
It sounds like you are at the beginning of all of this. And if it is a MLC, he may still be in the denial stage if he is not projecting blame onto you yet. Once they hit the anger stage, they blame you for doing everything wrong and you really start to walk on egg shells.
My H told me on and off for about two yrs. almost that he felt like we should give each other time and space and that he thought we needed a legal seperation. But then he would act the next day like everything was fine. Around the second year of all that denial stage, he started to blow up at me for even the littelist of things. He would make immpossible demands of me that when I tried to fullfill, he would say its too little too late. He placed so much blame on me for aprox. a yr. before he actually left me a dear john note that said he was leaving. This is when he went into the replay stage and has been there for almost a year now.
Each situation is different (with some similarities).If he is not Blaming you or acting mad yet, i feel he may still be in the denial stage where he is quietly questioning the runaway thoughts in his head, and sometimes letting them surface when he says he wants to be single or date others. My H said the same things and then he actually got the nerve up to leave and actually did date someone else for a short while.
Is your H still living with you and acting like he is still part of the M? Or has he already left you and seeking his own new life? TIPPER
