It wasn't boring at all- your threads are funny, and it was interesting seeing your advice to the others too!
So goals- I like them. Especially the ones that are about you (4 and 5!). For 1-4, do you think there's anything that might happen before any of the goals are achieved that would tell you you're on your way to reaching them? Eg, would W smile at you? or maybe make some eye contact? (Those are examples from what I am hoping to see from my H (One Day!!))
And with the walking away or stating that you won't listen under those circumstances- I think that would be a good 180 to try. I like the options! It's worth a go isn't it? And monitor and see what happens. Maybe try the statement first a few times (consistency!), and then if that doesn't generate a change try the walking away. As far as I can see there's nothing to lose and baby steps to gain!
So sorry you feel lethargic about all this- I think your sich must be so hard to deal with as it's there all the time and you've been dealing with it for so long. At least for me, H isn't here so I'm not constantly on edge about it. I remember thinking before he left that it'd be easier if he did leave for a few days, and miss me (although I didn't want him to). When I get depressed about him having left to date an aubergine you can remind me of this!!
Oh, and great progress on the CC. What happened about the rota?
L.xx
PS The eye rolling. I can only speak for myself, but I think if I was testing my H I would do it periodically, every once in a while and see what happened. Your W's behaviour seems like it's constant and I can't understand it. But one thing I do know is that if my H ever rolled his eyes after I'd said something I would feel pretty hurt - as though he was disrespecting me when I was trying to make a point. Of course, I know it must be hard when things like the pan incident occur, but if it's possible to not do it, I think that could only be a good thing!!
Walk on, walk on, with hope in your heart. And you'll never walk alone.
