Brit has said it perfectly - your W is confused. You are NOT going to get what you want from her for a long time, you knw this.
Now is the time to take care of YOU. You have made it clear you would like to save the M, you have stated what you want. Now is the time to back off and SHOW your W how life with you can be wonderful. No more talks, showing.
Get in touch with the old Steve, the one she fell in love with. This doesn't mean you ignore your W or give her any kind of cold shoulder, but your role to her now is less of an H and more of a good friend. But you know whose friend you have to be the most now, and that's your own.
GAL time - and here's your homework. List 5 things you've always wanted to do that are within your means. Go on - dare you!
Bomb (ILYBINILWY, don't want to be married)Sept05 Seperated Sept/Oct 05 Oct 06 - H recomitted July 11 - I am now a WAW.
Don't tell your W about the 5 things, also do not "Temperature test" to see if she notices. Remember these 5 things will be for you. If she notices and mentions them to you, that will be your "Brucie Bonus".
