How many times sobred up? About a dozen. He has never had long term inpatient treatment though which is what I think could make the difference. I've attended ALANON/NARANON for about 25 years and through that have meet many spouses of addicts/alcoholics that have changed their lives totally around, but even those sometimes have a relapse after 1,5,10 or even 20 years sober and with immediate inpatient treatment I've seen those later relapses be severe, but brief. I don't know that I've ever really seen trust totally rebuilt though. It seems the realtionships that seem to later thrive are those where the recovering addict can accept that their spouse doesn't have to trust them to love them.
