Last night I finally sent something that worked to my client, who has no faith in me. Haven't gotten any response today but I'm going to keep working on the project and adding features and send more to him later.
Frank, this is great. It seems you will feel so much more confident if you can get over feeling like you failed with work related things. Good for you for plugging away at this with no guarantees.
You get such great advice on this thread. I am happy that people are giving back to you- you gave to so many. I keep something you wrote once with my "things to save." Funny, now that I just wrote that, I realized it would apply to you, too. It was basically about how cowardly it is of a spouse to say things like "if you had done 'XYZ' then, instead of now, well things could be different." It really hit home with me at the time, because I was always feeling guilty and a day late and a dollar short. You made me see that love waits, and love forgives. And, if my H truly loved me he wouldn't play those head games with me.
So, you quit feeling guilty, too. My favorite saying: When we knew better, we did better. You're getting there. No one knows what will happen with your wife. We just want to see you at peace and happy.
