Lan, I agree with you 100%. Programs like Retrovaille, MC, etc. work only if BOTH are on board otherwise its a crap shoot and would most likely backfire as it did in my case and a few others I know of. Having followed your sitch every step of the way I think you are taking the more sure footed approach.
Me-48, W-38 M14, D11, S7 W filed D 01/07 W had to move out 06/07 Current Thread