It was because I was raised to be a people pleaser. Don't rock the boat and just be nice no matter what someone is doing to hurt you. I sense you are the same way Kissak. Men like this seek out women who they can push around emotionally even though it doesn't seem like they are doing that. They don't do it intentionally, they do this by instinct. DON'T BE A PEOPLE PLEASER ANYMORE! BE A KISSAK PLEASER!!!!!
Thanks Mishka....I needed to hear that. I am a people pleaser and I HATE conflict.....Time to be a kissak pleaser!!
What have I been doing to GAL....Working...going out with friends....took my kids to the movies yesterday....hosted a slumber party at my house on saturday night for my neices, they had a few friends stay the night, it was a blast. I felt like a kid again. Laughed so hard I peeeeeeed my pants!!! Yes, I am getting a life...much more than I had before. I dont think constantly about my H and his xOW as much as I use to. I dont get on here and stay as much as I use to either. So, Iknow I am getting stonger and yes I do get sucked back in little by little with my H. I should probably stand up and tell him that I dont want to talk about his problems with his adulterous affairs, but sometimes I am just too nice. But I think I have good control over it.
Im really doing ok. He is the one who is not doing ok. I have seen him go so down hill that it is scary. He has gotten in debt. Had to sell off some of his retirement, carpool to work, lost friends and respect of people, hurt his kids. I dont believe he has had a moment of peace in over a year. You would think some people would see that God is trying to tell them something....but you are right, I should leave this to God.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
