Getting stronger everyday!

[mishka422]

Kissak - You're letting him suck you in to too much of his drama. I know you love him and want him to be the man you fell in love with but that is NOT going to happen right now. He's in a deep dark place that your love can not penetrate.

He is being disrespectful to you every time he even begins to mention his OW. DON'T LET HIM SAY ANYTHING AT ALL ABOUT HER! If he needs to talk about her he can do that with a therapist or a male friend, not the woman he has tried to destroy!

I know he won't look at it that way, he didn't want to destroy anything, he just wanted to find happiness...blah blah blah. He will NEVER be happy until he figures out that happiness can not be found in other people, only within himself and through God. You can not bring him to that realization and I know that you know that in your head, but your heart will not give it up.

Kissak - I only say these things because I care about you and I see you spinning in circles as well because he does that to you. You have grown so much! Be very careful that you don't lose the person you are becoming - she's a strong, beautiful, caring person but is still extremely vulnerable. Take care of you first, kids second (yes, second!), leave your H to God.

My therapist told me something in my last session that I hadn't thought about. My H is a narcissictic, pathological liar. I have caught him in so many lies over the years that I didn't confront him about because they were not life changing or threatening in any way. His biggest lie though was his A with this crazy BI%@H and even when I found out about it I did not immediately confront him, I let him figure out that I knew. It was because I was raised to be a people pleaser. Don't rock the boat and just be nice no matter what someone is doing to hurt you. I sense you are the same way Kissak. Men like this seek out women who they can push around emotionally even though it doesn't seem like they are doing that. They don't do it intentionally, they do this by instinct. DON'T BE A PEOPLE PLEASER ANYMORE! BE A KISSAK PLEASER!!!!!

What specifically have you done to GAL? New activities? New interests? Revived an old interest? What? I'd be interested to hear.