But wait... she did grow up with it. Just not with her mom. Her dad showed all the cuddliness she could want, right? So why would she be driven to choose a man that's like her mom?
Here's a scary thought: I've read that men and women both marry their mothers.
I think Mojo and the board has been focused too much on her exH. He is the obvious “culprit,” right? He is childish, downright mean at times, irresponsible, depressed, etc. But all this flies in the face of the “rule” that two people in a relationship are on the same emotional level. So if her exH is like that, what is Mojo like? How is she on the same level as her exH, if she seems so much more aware, sexually evolved, outgoing, etc?
I think the issues is what is NOT present within Mojo, rather than what harmful of dysfunctional things are present – and those things seem to be few. I wonder how Mojo’s mom responded to the cuddliness of her dad? Did she turn her dad away or ignore him? Did her dad cuddle with Mojo in lieu of his wife (there’s your possible sexual molestation issue – not that he did anything sexual or abusive, but that he placed Mojo in a role inappropriate for a child). How could a child be able to respond to such cuddliness (and neediness) from an adult?
If Mojo did not see her mother model the proper response, then she had to make it up for herself. It seems her older sister had a similar problem since she was having sex with the neighborhood boys. I think it is important for the mother to model proper boundaries for the daughters, how to put off overtly aggressive men and how to properly accept advances, and in so doing, show how those advances from a husband make the wife fully blossom and become fulfilled. That’s what I think is missing.
