Okay, okay, I promise I will never do the laundry before my H's weekend with OW! That was probably my worst moment; I hope I don't do worse than that. My C was horrified when I told her that. I will probably be written up by her in some medical journal as an example of a "doormat" wife now!
I will try not to take the R temp every 5 minutes but that is hard. I am currently a little in panic mode as I type this. I know you will tell me this is wrong, but yet this is how I feel.
H cut down his hours with OW, b/c of work, to just the weekend. This week he was sick so he only saw her Sat. for 2 hours. Sunday am he told her he wasn't going to see her at all (I figured this all out later). I guess because of that (maybe withdrawal?) and I think OW was upset and pressuring H to move out of our house H was super cranky Sunday AM when we went to church and said something like I'll be gone soon or you'll be on your own soon so you better get used to doing everything by yourself or something like that. So I guess H is planning on moving out soon. After church, I went and did groceries and my own thing and H took a nap and talked to his brother. He was fine when I saw him later for dinner, and we were talking and laughing again, & watched a movie together.
I'm sure OW is pressuring him to move out not only because he only can spend a few hours with her on the weekend now, but I think b/c some of what he tells her about me worries her: I lost 35 lbs. (only 5 to go!) work out a lot, am doing 3 hr. dance rehearsals, we talk & laugh all the time, watch movies together, get along great, I still love him, clean & cook for him, good mom, etc. I'm sure H doesn't tell her everything, but even if she knows some, she probably doesn't like the idea of us living together for months and months (if she's smart anyway!).
Anyway, since I think H right now is making the decision about if or at least when to move out right now and OW is pressuring him, what should I be doing if anything? Does anyone have any advice? Just keep doing what I am doing? GALing, being an attractive person, good friend, etc. Any other ideas? I am hoping the OW will be really, really witchy about this, and I have been my usual sweet self the last 2 days. (H did apologize for his cranky behavior yesterday; I guess he realized he was taking his stress out on me.) Karen43
