Yes, I know I need to work on being patient. The funny thing is I have no choice, with this situation. I HAVE to be patient. It's extremely uncomfortable though.
I am doing better than a year ago. I would cry and be unable to have any fun at all when we would break up a year ago, even 6 months ago during the big summertime breakup. Now I am moving on, having fun, enjoying being alone, thinking of dating others if she doesn't come around soon.
I had a guy on here one time who told me that I shouldn't date others while "divorce busting." Do you agree with that?
By selfish, I mean I want her back! I'm trying to let go of that and let God direct my future but on the other hand God supposedly fulfills our desires. Most of my advice (and of course the Bible and religious beliefs) are contradictory. Or maybe it's just my inability to understand stuff.
Anyway, I'm completely ready to start being "unselfish" if I got her back. Until that happens, I admit I will keep believing that someday she may return. My shrink says that will change when I meet someone else. I suppose he's right. It's just so hard to meet other gay women who are beautiful, feminine and professional. I guess I need to add emotionally available. Emotional health is actually at the top of my list for "next time." So important!
All advice is welcome! From anyone - not just Saffie, Nik & Michelle!
