I agree with Cat. You need to ask H straight out about the Jewlery and the phone. I think he needs to konw that S found the phone too So he knows that this goes farther than just the two of you.
Our H's like us don't know what they did at the time to hurt us and visa-versa. we don't know what we may say or do to hurt our S's at one time ro another and never will unless it is brought to our attention. Maybe saying that your sorry he feels the way he does about the past hurts but, that he has also hurt you in the past you just let it go and hope that he can forgive you at some point. But thats just my suggestion you need to do what is right for you.
Hugs, and good luck.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
