I have let God take over, and He has done tremendous strides in my life. I just get a thought or voice in my head that says.."She will come back, just be prepared for what you will feel like when she does.."
I dont know if that is God talking or my own concoctions...I guess I will know when the time is right.
Thanks again and God bless u.
Chevelle
Chevelle,
I felt the EXACT same thing. However, you really need to pray for discernment. I have seen my friends who are in the same situation believe they should wait. They get "stuck." My personal feeling is if your spouse violated your wedding vows by D or PA, you are free to go....
I believe this desire to look back can be an attack of the enemy. If you are focused on your exW, you will never have happiness in the present. You can never move on and fully heal. Satan is robbing you of feeling the joy and happiness God has for us.
I am not saying where this is coming from in your sitch. I just wanted to bring up the possibility that little voice could be Satan.
Back to how you would feel if she would come back; that is so very tough. If my exW would have came back before I met my W, I may have considered it. As my friend Teresa says, “A woman has to take a number.” She would have had to wait in line. Also, she would have to agree to a monogamous relationship, weekly counseling and the two of us living apart for the first year before I would even ponder it.... All I can say is she really blew it....
At times, I really felt like Job.... Wondering how much more I could handle..... I praise God He gave me strength to make it through that time... Like Job, He has now blessed me so abundantly...
Take Care,
Rich
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
