I'm a regular on the newcomers forum but am still wondering about MLC.
My H has a very stressful job.. which he says he loves (and he puts before all else).. he has recently told me that his struggle is that he wants to be single to date other people (which I know means one person in particular but he refuses to admit to that).. things in our M went downhill after our D2 was born (as far as he's mentioned. I was completely out of the loop) and I'm sure I was fully caught up in my new role as Mom and was completely neglectful as a wife... so his feelings of not having passion for me are valid since I may have unintentionally been pushing away due to my own stresses...
He has said recently that he feels that he's spiralling.. which sounds to me like it's a likelyhood that it's MLC.. but I just don't know. It could also be that he was bored and sex starved in our M and this OW is always around and available.. and nice, and easy to talk to.. and interested..
I know that in the scheme of things it doesn't change anything.. but it would be easier for me to accept if it was MLC 'cause I think that it's an illness.. it would be easier to think my H is sick and that I need to stand by him through this illness than it is for me to think that without any thought of a second chance he is able to walk away from our marriage and tear apart our family and our D's security.
