PS. You seem to be the only one making real progress here among all the gloom and doom. For most of us all the DBing is going nowhere. There are some brief DB "success stories" posted but unfortunately the entire story is not available so I don't give these stories much weight.
It does sound like Lanzo is make headway and definitely getting positive signals. Lanzo, I haven't had the chance to get through your earlier threads, but I just wanted to reply to Kalni that there are actual success stories out there. I can speak confidently of this because my W and I are an example of a couple on the mends. There are also others out there that made it through to better times. Saffie and Sara stand out as two that have given me much advice.
I would expect the posts in this section would be ripe with motivating success stories, but maybe some start posting here too early. I know in my situation, there was a point months back where I thought that we were on our way to piecing so I started a thread here only to find out that we still had a long way to go.
Things have improved immensely for us since the beginning of the year. We still have work to do, but I believe that we are at this point primarily because of a program called Retrouvaille. It definitely gave us the motivation, optimism and tools to really work on our marriage. I'll try to post more on my own thread about what I thought worked and didn't work
