CONTACTING OW/OW'S HUSBAND

[kikidee]

Much food for thought. I now know, for sure, that I have no interest in contacting OW. I don't want to waste a single breath on her. It's the reactions my H has had when I bring OW up (he gets nasty, and isn't a nasty guy, and continues to deny, deny, deny) that makes me think that he is scared of me in respect to hurting OW. That makes me want to do it. I'm not wanting to do it to hurt anyone. I just want the truth out. That's what makes me the most angry and disappointed...all the lying. I just want to shake up the fantasy world they're living in. I have had people around me, who are supporting me through this, who are likely thinking more clearly than I am who tell me to absolutely NOT contact anyone - that it would only do a disservice to me in the long run. That said, my own 70-year-old-37years-married-mother said today that I should get a divorce lawyer. At this point, I feel as though there is nothing to lose.