It's something very small...something that ALL OF US..by now...would recognize.FIB
FIB,
Yes, I know exactly what you mean here. H and I were separated 22 months. I had gone completely dark for a couple months. But then, something came up, and we spoke on the phone. We talked ~ once a week for a few weeks & decided to meet for lunch. Lunch was something we did somewhat regularly while separated. We always parted ways with a hug...a non-passionate hug with a back pat. But this time, the hug had a little bit of linger in it, and then he did it. He kissed me on the lips. Right there, I knew he was feeling differently. I sensed that things were about to go in a whole new direction - all from that 1-second peck.
I was right.
H did something. It was an action that any other couple might not notice, but for me, it screamed decibles lounder than words. Since then, it has been a whole new H. No more OW. Just me. Just us.
Don't get me wrong, it wasn't/isn't smooth sailing by any means. There are so many issues that consume me sometimes. What he did during those two years. But I know that if it is to work out for us, I will have to let it all go.
It's very hard. Harder than standing.
But at least I'm not trying by myself anymore. I now know that H wants this M to work just as much as I do.
Our sitch was severe too Frank, but H found his way back. Your W will too if she wants to.
Hope my story helps you see that the smallest of signs can have the biggest & best intentions. You're eyes are still open to see it too. Just keep them open Frank, it's not over until both of you stop trying at the same time.
