Finding my way...

[Lissie]

Ow is in the background saying that she is invovled in this that she is going to LOVE those girls like her own blah, blah, blah.

I don't think I'm calm about this one yet, but let me try.

I think you sitting down with D9 is not the best thing right now. Let her come to you.


She has a whirlwind of info in her head and her heart. It is very hard on them. Moises shuts down when he has heard to much.

I nipped all this crap in the bud with Susan very early on. I am the mother, you don't say [censored] to my kids. If you do and find out, I will come see you and see what you will tell me in my face about it

yup no Dbing involved there, They are my children, and they will not be put in this weird situation.

The OW in the case is a ballzy beootch. I think you will have to have some communication with her sooner or later.
Will it bring, your H and her more together, i know at this point you don't give a [censored] about that. You only care about your D's.

I agree with Holly, let her tell you stuff, let her tell you things that go on.

She will get it

Jav told the kids we fought to much, that is why he left. And my son looked at his father and said, but i only remember all of us cuddling on the sofa.

The writing journal, has been my saving grace with the kids.

Maybe try it. Sometimes that can't tell me things face to face, so they write it for me.

I respond in the journal too. We put it under each other's pillows. When we want the other to read it.

I also have told the children on a need to know basis.

I don't dwell on speaking to the kids about the Divorce or the seperation, or Susan.

It is way to much for them

They feel like they need to protect us. I try not to put my kids in a parental role, where they feel they have to protect me.

Susan knows that I will not tolerate stuff when it comes to my kids. Javier knows it as well.

My mother has also told Javier um, she is not part of this family, therefore, she is not part of the kids lives, in anyway except for a person that may be them an icecream once in a while.

Other than that she will have no major importance. Javier said he would not disrespect her or me in that way.

Let your girls come to you with what they have to say.

It is not important right now as to WHY you are seperated.

It is important now, that they know, even if you are seperated they are the most important, and they are so very loved.

And I know you live your life doing that.

I do not say anything bad about javier to them, but If they ask me something, then I tell them the truth.


I also think that everytime you ask him about his job, he becomes more and more of an ass.

So maybe zip it when it comes to that. You will eventually know what is up.

For now focus on what you can only control.

Love you

and i could imagine how much this hurts

and I am very sorry.

and please hug those babies girls, so hard from titi lis