When I realized what was going on it had been in progress about 9 months. I asked H first, he denied it. I called ow, she denied anything but admitted she had been a pest. I called ow's H and when he talked to her that night he found out she had rented an apartment and was moving out in a few days.
Mostly all it accomplished was giving H the reason he wanted to justify how bad I was and why he could hate me and why he should leave. That was May 2004, and he's not gone yet although there are times I wish he was and would be man enough to follow thru what he says he wanted. Of course the flip side of that is that I haven't been woman enough to make him follow thru either.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.