Finding my way...

[Holly06]

Darling,

Another perspective.
The more you defend yourself/explain yourself, the temptation to let blame lie where it does is great.

Give your daughter an open forum of asking questions. Tell her you will tell her the truth.
Answer her questions and do not elaborate.
Let her ask the question to get the details.
You will feel like you have not defended yourself and your choices, but you did what you have to do.
Don't play his game and justify what you are doing.
Your daughter will know when she has had enough information.
Remember, this is about what she needs, not what you need.
She asks, you answer with as much brevity as possible.
Economy of language is going to get you farther in her eyes that someone volunteering the "truth".
You are doing what your child needs. I know you know that your girls need to salvage some love for their dad. No, he does not deserve it, and I am glad you are not making life easier for him any longer.
But you sound like you are going to volunteer TOO much.
Does this make sense?

BTW, this advice was given to me in regards to my own daughters asking about sex!
It works in all instances.
You will win awards for being a good mommy, and adult woman.