Back on the Roller Coaster - OW still around

[fooled again]

Mike,

I'm interested in the 4 stages your coach talked about. Are these stages for MLCers or are these stages for all DBing R's? I'm trying to learn more about the whole MLC process as I understand DBing in MLC is different from DBing in other situations, say simple infidelity (well, I don't mean infidelity is simple, but not complicated by MLC).

When I look back over the past 1.5 yrs, I clearly see the cycling that he was doing while deep in replay. He would always come back to me, then disappear, then come back, then disappear. I still see some of that cycling, it's different now.

Before when he disappeared, he would be unreachable and would not call at all, not even to talk to D, for days at a time. He might send a single text, but never answer my reply or my call if I called him right after getting his text. I know now he was w/ OW and he couldn't answer b/c she would know (she even told me she would check his phone and see my texts).

Now when he goes off to do whatever, he calls both D and I and texts. It's a rare day that I don't talk to him and I can't remember the last time there was absolutely no contact for a day.

Gotta go. I'll write more in a bit.
FA