Maybe a touch of IC for you for the passive aggressive tendencies in the past might be a good place for you. That may help you to learn to handle things in a more reasonable way.
She won't have to hear about it from you, but she'll hear about it, almost guaranteed.
And even if you believe you no longer do that, then just a few meetings may help you be sure, and help you figure out what to do right, instead of being wrong....
