I see no neediness or clinginess. I'm not sure where you're getting that from.

Clearly there is some anger, as there is in ALL of us who have been betrayed MULTIPLE times by a spouse. I suppose unforgiveness goes along with that.

You make it sound like FIB is the problem here, when that is definitely NOT the case. Don't mistake errors he may make in handling this stage of the ending of their relationship with a crisis on his part. This is HARD. And it's not something that he ever would have WANTED to do. So it's not always handled in the admirable way he or we may like.

I would say you are as detached from XXX as anyone could be. Can't see how anyone could interpret your words any other way. The possible problem is that your detachment also contains some bitterness, which is not unexpected.

Stay strong. Continue to be the man and the rock for you family.

Blessings,

Bill

"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."