I don't cry MLC. I just say pick your 'fights' better.
Two wrongs don't make a right and you seem to be heading down to your W's level in SOME aspects of behaviour - the acting like a juvenile - tit for tat behaviour.
I just think you are going to get hurt even more by doing this. I am seriously worried about YOU Mark - and your children.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
Well, the bottom line is that my wife is having sex with another man. I am getting tired of just sitting back and waiting for it to end.
DBing has done wonders for my self-esteem and attitude. And perhaps that's a bad thing in some regards. I don't see how a person with strong self-esteem would permit such deliberate and repeated acts of disrespect.
I am growing intolerant of the disrespect. Is that good or bad?
so don't sit back, mark. no one is suggesting that you have to. but recognize what you have control over and what you don't have control over. you can take your ball and go home if you don't want to play, but you can't take HER ball and go home, ya know?
you do NOT need to be disrespected. the reason H and I separated is because I finally realized I can't do anything about him seeing her/calling her, and I couldn't live with him while he was doing that. so we separated. that was something in my control. but the passive aggresive stances like the car thing, well, those are bound to backfire, as you well know.
I care about YOU mark. just saying to take a step back, really see what you are attempting to do, and try to do whatever that is with dignity. you do NOT need to strike out at her to maintain/regain your self respect.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
