Whoops, didn't catch that quick enough to edit. I hope it was clear from context that: I asked what you thought about a man who wanted to be in an exclusive relationship with you and you answered, essentially, "I can empathize." should have been I asked what you thought about a man who wanted to be in an exclusive relationship with you without even having met you and you answered, essentially, "I can empathize."
Well, there are a couple things going on here. First, I should note that based on what FSG told me himself, I might be tempted to label him as a "male slut" rather than just a wolf. That is , I got the strong impression that he spent most of his 20s/30s sitting on a bar stool on a Friday night sometimes taking the initiative to get a woman, sometimes letting women get him and sometimes just f*cking whatever monkey was left in the bar at closing time. He straight-up told me that he was willing to chase me because I am pretty close to his physical sexual ideal. I know it is rather dysfunctional but I like this for the obvious reason that I spent close to two decades with a man who told me over and over again that I was not his sexual ideal. Since my separation I have re-discovered that probably about 80% of the male population wouldn't kick me out of bed for eating crackers and a smaller percentage (maybe 13%?- lol) is strongly attracted to my "type". The interesting thing is that for various reasons my "type" is in relatively short supply so I don't have any problem getting dates even though I'm not most men's ideal type. (The men who are attracted to me all say pretty much the same thing which is that they can't have sex with a skinny woman (current cultural ideal)but they aren't attracted to women who are shaped like apples. I think the reason why my type is in short-supply at the moment is that women who are shaped like me either think that they are too fat and hide/change their bodies or buy into the cultural stereotype that a tall curvy woman who dresses in clothes that fit her form must be a stupid trailer-trash bimbo. (if you think I'm exaggerating just consider the kind of comments made about Monica Lewinsky and her body type post-scandal). I'm not afraid of being mistaken for a trailer-trash bimbo because I am extremely intelligent and my father was nothing if not a gentleman (I just had the enlightening thought that it is true that when I operate in opposition to my father's value system I start to feel like I do deserve to be treated like cr*p. BTW: my father was a fairly liberal intellectual so his value system did not include shaming his daughters for being sexual beings. Voila! The reason why I am feeling kind of bad about being monkey lately is because I have been doing stuff like buying high heels instead of paying my debts on time which my father would seriously frown upon. My father was the kind of guy who would just sigh when my sisters and I would dress all mini-monkey and head out to the roller-rink but he would say stuff to me like "There is no reason why a member of our family should be getting an F in Physics." When my 2bx knocked me up my father got a bit drunk and maudlin and said something like "I didn't think I'd live to see a grandson." (why he assumed the child would be a boy is a question) and then later he said "You know that you don't have to get married. You are perfectly capable of raising the child on your own." but stupid, stupid, stupid me didn't believe him.)
END IMPORTANT DIGRESSION
I should admit that I was also kind of amused by the fact that FSG was ordering me up like a Russian Mail-Order Bride as LP indicated. On one level I did believe that he had solidly determined that I was the woman he wanted because I could tell that he was the kind of guy who decides what kind of car he is going to move up to next year or where he is going to go on vacation and then does it (Tye 8/3). However, since I am not actually an item for sale in a catalogue, I didn't/don't feel obliged to "deliver" myself in exactly the manner he might prefer. OTOH, I realize that I'm making an error in judgment if I think that a guy who operates like that has no "feelings". People who are tough/assertive and jolly/optimistic can be hurt too.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
