Not so much mind reading on my part, as she had told me as much in a previous conversation. My W only wants mind reading when she it comes to her feelings, or if she wants me to tidy up lol! She has said that I should try to read her mind sometimes.
I whole heartedly agree that there has been to many R talks and I am more able to avert these with every passing day. I have kind of lost interest in them. I havent brought one up for over week now (seems short, but long for me). When she brings something up, I listen to what is on her mind and then let it be. I dont try to ignore the fact that she has something to say. I just try to not let it turn into a conversation, just leave it as a chat. She just said to me that she is sorry, so I said what for? She said just generally. I said that she didnt need to worry, as this has actually been a hidden opportunity for me. To use my pain in a constructive way. I feel better now than I actually did this time 6 months ago. She said that she didnt think she has the strengh to do that with her pain. I just said that I didnt think I could either, but we can sometimes surprise ourselves. I left it at that and left the room. Too many R talks I agree, but our talks at the moment are not unproductive and circling downward as the others have. They either bring to light small positives, or I nip them in the bud.
Praying has really helped to give me perspective. Buddism is a pleasant surprise more me.
Cheers
Steve
God I need hugs sometimes. A kiss wouldnt go amiss either lol!
Me 27 W 30 M 2yrs/ T 5yrs Expecting our first child Sept 08 warning bomb (has feelings for someone) 21/12/08 I found out about OM (by snooping) 14/1/08 Living together.
