You are all great, I feel like we are tight friends. I enjoy and respect your thoughts.
There are so many up and downs.
Well I got back from my son's soccer practice at noon (after being gone since 8am) and she bought up all the subjects on the note as soon as I walked in the door, which makes me feel she wanted me to see the note last eve and bring them up myself so I could be the bad guy. She left the note right in the middle of her bed last night hanging out of a book that we were both reading. She explianed the things she was most purturbed with was that I was paying our bills out of the joint account (savings) and not my account. The second thing was my grandmothers ring which is very important to me, I failed to see her point that I gave that to her and it was hers. I just wanted her to know that it was very important to me I wanted to know that it was safe and I wanted to keep it in my room. Nothing else. She did not understand this. Only that I gave it to her and it was her's. After I thought about it she was right.
She also bought up the separation agreement and I simple listened, said nothing and told her I was not there yet and not ready to give up on our M. I had to remind her to calm down about 5 time. I asked for a time out so we could come back to this later but she kept going on. She was acting like a child.
She continued to say she called her lawyer 3 times last week but could not get thru to her. That is pure BS. I called a very well known lawyer ($400HR)last week and she picked up the phone and talked to me for an hr for free last week. She gave me great advise. I don't think she is calling her lawyer, either that or she is to cheap you use the retainer $$ hrs. She is acting like a 16 year old again.
I am trying so hard to leave her be and I am doing a good job at detaching but am having a hard time GALing unless you include my kids activities (soccer) and stuff GAL. Up until today we were doing great. She really is in great pain and i wish I could help her but I know I can not. Space, Space, Space this is hard to cause I just want to be around her. After our discussion she gave me a kiss and I put her to bed for a nappy for she was not feeling well. Pray for me, I think I am doing well but I am getting worn down.
