Back on the Roller Coaster - OW still around

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FA,

Busy weekend for me. The coaching session was good I thought. She told me to do some things another way or time. Like only being around my W for a half an hour, having somewhere I'm going and to give her a compliment or praise when I'm walking out the door. She said that a compliment or praise at any other time will be seen as pursuit. But when leaving it's not looking for a response or reaction.

Got the opportunity to use it Friday. D24's BF called me said he was stuck in traffic, could I pick up D. I did and took her to her house, W was there. I spent almost all the time there (about 1/2hr) talking with D or her BF or playing with my GS. Very little time talking to W. BF asked me if I wanted to stay for dinner, told him no that I'm going to meet a friend for a couple of drinks. He said kind of loudly, Big Mike has a date, I'm sure W overheard and I didn't refute that it was a date. Asked W about her job, if she's thinking about taking the managers job. Told her she would be good at it, that she is the best and most conscientious employee they have and walked out the door. I went to a bowling alley lounge where I thought I might see someone I'd know. When I went home I parked my car on another street in case my W drove by the house on her way to work at 4:30AM.

Way to go girl looking fine and all dolled up for H. It sounds like he really noticed. Sounds like some positive steps, don't get depressed if he takes a step backwards again. On the ILY, it does say to not say that to the S but if something isn't working do something different. Saying to H ILY was a 180, I'm sure he was probably pleasantly surprised. That's one thing my W said is I never told her ILY. I guess i thought it was understood, one thing I'll change if she comes back!

Coach said there are 4 stages, reducing bad feelings, being friends, romance and reconciliation. That ML should be avoided in the first two stages because S will withdraw afterwards. Although if it is working for you continue. What about you calling him to wish him luck before his interview?

Mike