My word we are very parallel in our experiences. That has to be why we've been directed here to this site andwhy you choose to chime in on my thread.
Let me explain... My W is claiming that she is "physically, emotionally, and psychologically afraid of me." When I found out about the affair when it was in its infancy and questioned it, she said "Two weeks of bad decisions on my part doesn't make up for 10 years of abuse on yours." This is her game plan to divorce me.
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The truth is that I have a temper. I have raised my voice in the house. I have never called my kids or my wife names or insulted them hurtfully. I do not strike them. I have never punched a wall. I have never threatened anyone with violence.
I have a temper too and was very overreactive during our arguments in the past. I have never threatened her or my D and I've never, ever hit her or even had the thought cross my mind. However, in her mind, I was a massive scary monster.
Your other quote below also relates quite well with my situation.
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I think I would be very satisfied with my kids having a sane mommy. DBing is sort of a pipe dream now.
I'm not sure if I can DB my marriage successfully either at this point. I'm not sure if she's completely gone or not. My W's blind faith in the OM has me very concerned, but I am with you 100%.
I would rather lose my marriage for good than to have my W continue to be unhealthy for my D. The most important thing is the welfare of my D, so to make sure that happens, her mommy needs to be psychologically healthy.
I really know where you are at right now, SPM. We have to hang in and continue to see where things go.
