FLTC, I hope you don't mind while I hijack your thread for a moment.
Hey Dom:
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females are usually better at conversation manipulation, whereas us males more often have to resort to more blunt tactics
I have to confess that sometimes when I am upset, I make absolutely no sense. I rant and rave about 20 unrelated things that are bothering me - when in fact it may be none of those 20 things actually are that it is really a 21st thing I haven't identified. The poor male tries to follow what I am saying and gets increasingly frustrated. And when he does try to say something - it is never really right b/c quite frankly I really don't know what I want to hear - just that what I am hearing is not right! LOL!
I will have to reluctantly confess that I probably have sounded like FLTC's W on occassion when interacting with a male R...
Men in general seem to be more articulate when confronted by pretty much everyone when compared to their wives. I work in a male dominated environment and the men are sometimes more emotional chatty than the women. Us women are frozen b/c we are not allowed to display emotion or be chatty for fear we are labeled "acting just like a woman."
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I can always think of great ways to respond.... a few hours after the conversation is over and done with
I hear you on that one. Sometimes when I figure out item #21 that is the true source of my angst - I am very organized and focused but by then the poor male is licking his wounds somewhere and has gone into hiding!
During my relatively saner moments when I am calm enough to use DB techniques. I try to detach and figure out the outcome first - in other words what do I want. Then I figure out how to get there. If you detach from the process of getting there, it is easier to manipulate the situation. I suppose that is why it comes more easily to me at work - I am not as emotionally invested.
