Imagine your 16 year old leaving a note out for you to see. The note outlines her plans to run away from home. What does a smart dad do? Beg her to stay? Try to "reason" with her? Lock her in her room? Nope. All those things will just make her want to leave all the more.
Years ago, one of my sons decided he wanted to run away. We'd grounded him for his grades. So he left a note outlining his plan on his desk for us to find.
Having been through this before with the older son, we knew what to do. We helped him pack a bag. Asked him what he wanted us to do with his stuff after he left. Then, the wife and I talked about how we were going to turn his room into a guest room. The next morning, we held the door open for him and wished him luck. The look on his face was priceless. He ended up walking a few blocks up the street to his friend's house, stayed the night, and begged us to let him come home the next day.
Your sitch is very similar. So don't freak out over the note. Hold the door open for her. Let her know that your life will go on.
One thing I've noticed after reading about a dozen other sitches on this board: when the LBS really detaches and starts to GAL, it exerts a really powerful pull on the MLC spouse.
Enjoy your Sunday, my good friend.
Bomb
Me: 51 W: 50 M 24 yrs EA: since Apr 06 S22, S26, S28 ILYBNILWY:Nov 07
"It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything." Tyler Durden
