I must apologize that I haven't had time to read the who thread, but this comes to mind...
From the way I read DB and Michele, there is only one rule…. If what you are doing is working, do more of it. If what you are not doing is not working, try something else.” Oh sure, there are variations of this, and I believe my favorite is “When you are contemplating doing something, first consider how it will serve your goals. If it will bring you closer to them, do it. If it will drive you further away, consider something else.”
Goals here are your long term goals, how you want this entire situation to be resolved, not your immediate sense of justice and vengance.
Think about it before you make any rash decisions.
