I had a meeting this morning. I left with a rather large pile of forms to be evaluated. I kindly, and lovingly, passed them onto my student!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I sooooooooooo love to delegate
Oh and I also rang my brother to wish him happy birthday he was trying to mend his computer at the time. Turned out he had the same problem as me in September so I advised him how to fix it. That's not bad from someone who has no training in IT/computer science whatsoever.
Last edited by ACJ; 02/14/0805:45 PM.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Just had a touch of deja vu! A guy from the local karate club came knocking at my door to try to drum up support for the club. He didn't need to give me the details, H used to train with/work for them. The last time they came knocking was when they were new to the area and my son was 6. He had just asked the day before if he could do karate.
Ironically H met OW through this very same club. Not quite sure how I feel about this. At first I thought it was funny and even sent a TM to the guy who used to be Hs boss when he worked for them telling him how funny I thought it was. However, now I feel a bit tearful b/c it almost feels like someone is trying to rub my nose in it. Mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
I suppose it could've been worse. OW used to be one of those 'door knockers' it could've been her knocking on my door (although I don't think either she or H are doing karate at the moment). Even more ironically karate was the one thing H refused to compromise on when he came home last time. He trained 3 nights a week all I wanted him to do was cut it down to 2.
Last edited by ACJ; 02/15/0804:37 PM.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Tonight I'm having a dinner party. there will be four of us. 3 who are either S or D and one who is single. I've met them all since I H left. One right here on the BB. I'm so looking forward to it.
This morning I was up early to prepare the food. Here is the menu:
Homemade: tomato and mixed vegetable soup with french toast Baked trout with stir fry vegetables Homemade rhubard crumble and custard.
I've tried to put something red/pink into every course. We will be drinking pink champagne and rose wine!
This morning I went out and bought 4 red heart shaped ballons (helium ones). I've made some pink, heart shaped peppermint creams and put them in nice containers. These containers I have wrapped in red tissue paper and then I have used them for the weights for the ballons. One for each guest (including me ). I also bought some heart shaped decorations to hang from the dining room ceiling. We are celebrating loving ourselves and having each other in our lives!
Unexpectedly H called to pick S15 up. I had just brought the ballons in from out of the car. They were just floating in the hall! He never asked and I never said but I'm sure it got him thinking.
About half an hour before MIL had been round. I had just finished making the peppermint creams when she arrived. I told her I was having a dinner party and when she asked who was coming I just said 3 friends.
I was happy and polite whilst H was here I was preparing the trout whilst he stood waiting for S15.
I quite like this creating mystery business. The fact that it wasn't planned is even better
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Sounds lovely! What a good idea ... think I will try it some time.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Hope you had a lovely evening - it all sounded wonderful. Trust me your H will be wondering what on earth was going on!! So good to hear you upbeat again. x
Yes it all went very well thank you. Nearly had a disaster b/c I forgot to put the fish in the oven while we ate our soup but we just said and talked and drank. They were fillets so they didn't take long.
It was very good company and I would strongly recommend it to others.
I know we keep saying we are on this journey for a reason and we keep finding out things about ourselves that probably wouldn't happen if we weren't here. I used to hate cooking, and hate going out for meals even more! Now I'm really taking enjoyment from cooking for others and experimenting with new dishes. I still don't go out for many meals but when i have instead of focusing on the eating and moving on I am taking time to enjoy the company and engage more in conversation. I am discovering things about myself I never knew were there.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
ACJ, isn't it amazing how much we learn about ourselves when we take the focus off of our crazy MLC'er!!
We learn how to rebuild our self esteem, we learn to try out new things and we learn that we are a complete and whole person even if our Husbands walked away.
((((((((hugs)))))))))
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
For some unexplainable reason I feel like bursting into tears today. I really have no reason why.
D17 got home from her trip to Egypt last night. It sounds like they had a lovely time but I have to admit that I am glad they are home safe and well.
Once we had heard all her holiday news I told her what I told the other two last week i.e. that I am sorry for the way I have handled things and that I would like to encourage her to build a R with H. Just like D12 she was very ambivalent about this. Pretty much as I expected really.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
