I find it helpful to think of MLC H as being mentally ill. This cuts through a lot of murkiness for me. I don't expect consistent logical thoughts or reactions from him. It's better than a spouse who has come down with Alzheimer's in some ways. And in other ways it's worse. In any case, if you've decided to hang in there with your sick spouse -- which is a very noble thing to do IMHO -- you need to protect yourself from being hurt by his symptoms. If you can pull this off, then you can enjoy him, because part of him is still there (like with Alzheimer's) It's possible he will recover from this illness (unlike Alzheimer's)
