Originally Posted By: Chevelle
You make some awesome points, RMG. Thanks.

I have made some female friends....funny, she is always asking me if I talk to anyone or am meeting them...

I was over at W's house tonight visiting my kids...she seems lonely tonight. I was playing with the kids and she gave me this happy almost cunningly loving smile at me....so of course I asked, "What was that for?"...she said.."Nothing." Maybe it was because for a moment we were a family again?? Heh.

Not that I expected her to say anything...just the way she did it made you think...yeah right..lol.

So..back to GAL...and I do fine by not seeing her (and I have to in order to see and take my kids)...but when she has no BF in the picture..I seem to get more phone calls and TMs...i know...I know..

And I understand you point, too RMG, about "They leave, they are gone..", Even though it seems that way, once in a while, I see the W that fell in love with me...oh well.

Just gotta go 100% with GAL and PMA...95% must not be working well enough. Thanks again...

God Bless

Chevelle


Chevelle,

I think you are doing rather well. I know how tough that situation can be.

When my WAW had initiated the D proceedings, I wanted nothing more than to have her stop and work on our M. She was the love of my life...

She would say things like...... "If you had only..." "Why didn't you do ________ earlier....." "You need to just work on the house and take some time to be alone..." "Do you remember the movie the Notebook? How he worked on the house until she returned?" I think in the back of her mind, she would just waltz back into my life again...

I could not see myself living on that roller coaster or playing games... I wanted to be with her and that was it... If she did not feel that way, I felt I had to move on...

I made a decision right before she dropped the bomb... I would not let the past interfere with the present or the future... I have made a conscious decision each and every day to continue this...

I hope you continue on with GALing... Keep the exW wondering... Keep meeting new women... When she asks, keep giving her a little information... But not too much...

I pray God will guide you and give you His peace during this difficult time.


Go with God,

RMG

"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"