It is so sad the way I've been seeing more & more threads in newcomers or affairs forums where the woman is either pregnant or has recently given birth. I was told by my H that he had in fact consulted w/ a D attorney right before we found out I was pregnant w/ #3.
I guess the only way around here & the best way is the keep reading "the book" Divorce Remedy of course and follow it's advice.
Even though H and I are ok again, I'm still working on ME and finding out who've I've become after being married and having 3 children. We lose ourselves and don't really realize it's happening and then all of a sudden our H's don't "love" us "that way" anymore. It's a tough road to take -- trying to figure out who we are and realizing that "hey, I really do like me" -- maybe it's the anti-depressant I'm now on. Anyone interested, let me know -- I've been on all the "newer" ones - Zoloft, Clexa, Lexapro, etc., but this one I'm on now seems to REALLY be working and I guess it's an "old" one that's not used much anymore.
Ok, I'll quit hijacking, but I think all this info may help Jenny and whoever else is reading this thread. These sitch's we end up in and why we are all here truly SUCK, but in the end, I believe no matter which way it goes -- whether the D actually happens or the M is worked out -- that it's all for the best. Everything happens for a reason and some day we'll think "hey, this must be why." I know for me, as much as the whole D sitch sucked, had it not happened, our M would never have gotten any better and I am prepared to keep it that way. M takes a lot of work and unfortunately, most of us didn't realize that. We figured, "we're in love and that's all that matters." But what happens is *LIFE* -- stress, work, house work, kids, etc. and unfortunately it's the M that gets put on the back burner and we were never warned to NEVER let this happen. Well, here we all are on the DB forums and have figured that out and hope that we'll have that 2nd chance to put our newly acquired information to good use.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
