LRT UNDER SAME ROOF IIII

[craig54]

gypsy, that is more than ok. i have been at this for almost 5 months. my wife is still in the house . she filed first set of paperwork 3 weeks ago. i am waiting to file mine next week. she says she wants to move out, but has made no effort to save money. i told her at first i would help as much as i could. she has not talked about it for weeks. as far as my daughter, this is a tough one. personally, i do not think there is anything wrong with being truthful about why you are fighting to save your marriage. the kids , especially teenagers understand what is going on.

i think they need to know that you dont want a divorce, and am doing whatever you can to not have that happen. it is a tough one though. i don't want to see my children suffer. but i also know how much they will suffer if we actually get a divorce.
which will be alot more than they are know.
i have two older children, 30&25 whose mother basically checked out on us for three years. i was left picking up the pieces, and raising them by myself. they have plenty of scars from that.


i would pray about it , i have been. asking the Lord for guidance. really keep an eye on your 13yr old. this is a tough time even without the added pressure of your situation.

as far as avoiding conflict, that is part of dbing. you are right, you can not keep him from leaving. you are not giving into his goals, since he has his own free will. keep the kids busy and also yourself. do 180's. it is amaxing how actions can make them look at you different. it sure has in my case. we are no closer to reconciling, at least not yet. but i know she notices the changes in me. spiritually speaking, because she has started to do the same thing. keep dbing at dont panic. patience.