I'm here. Lurking occasionally - mostly just checking up on you and UD. Reading too much keeps me too attached to H and what's going on (or rather, not going on in my R with him).
You sound like you're heading in the right direction. Keep on focusing on yourself. Worry about a R with your H if/when he ever becomes someone you're attracted to again. At least that's what I'm doing and it's working for me so far.
I'll post an update on my thread so I don't threadjack.
