But I also feel like in my case, the OP got over it easiely than I did. It was not her vows that were broken, it was not her who had to pick up the broken pieces of the M and of the family. So, learning that just made me feel more alone and weaker than she is. I guess that as you have said, each case is particular, in mine I feel ashamed she moved on and I did not. Yes, I know I need a 2X4.
Pass the 2 X 4, my friend. I feel the same way at times. What is wrong with me that H cannot work things out with me, yet OW can sleep with half of St. Louis and her husband takes her back? She gets what she wants, her H gets his family intact, my H is getting the D he most desparately wants, and here I am, the one that can't keep her man. Hugs hurt, I hear ya.
