Won't Back Down

[SallyM]

I am consumed with a passionate pursuit of happiness and fulfillment.

See, mark, I haven't seen much of this. A few poker nights here and there, a few nights out, but mostly I've seen you trying to gain control of the situations that are out of your control. Of course you are hurt. and of course you are angry. but from what I read, you are riding the wave of righteousness and calling it empowerment. That's not the case, not at all.

If you are ready to, separate, or even divorce. if not, let it be. but you shot yourself in the foot here. you backed your wife into a corner, and you expected her to mildly submit to your decree (and yes, it did come off to me that you dictated a decree to her...there was no discussion, no agreement, just like it or lump it, honey, and, oh, here's your bill for the priviledge). She didn't. Her choice. She fought back...like most people backed into a corner will do.

yes, you can go to her father, but I doubt it will do anything. you come off poorly here. jmho.

I guess what I would like to see is you really pursuing happiness, regardless of your wife's choices. You cannot change her choices, you can't even influence them.

Make some choices for Mark....but do it so that it doesn't hurt her, if possible. whatever comes, she's the mother of your children, and she is going to be in your life for the rest of your lives, in some capacity. You don't have to be buddies, but you do have to learn to communicate, and it will be better for everyone, especially your kids, if you can do it respectfully. even if she slings sh!t at you, you don't have to sling it back. doesn't mean you have to sit and be covered in it...move on, make your own life, but don't sling it back. you are better than that.