(((((Ingrid)))))
I think I would start with a separation, though I don't really know how that would help. Though she might realize that I do perform some useful functions around the house.

Dom, I usually do acknowledge when he is right, somehow she wants it in blood or something. It is hard to describe, but sayig she is right, agreeing with her, doesn't work. If I disagree, I'm wrong, if I agree, I'm only doing it to shut her up, if I say nothing I am avoiding the discussion. In most cases it has turned into a lose-lose situation. I'm sure in large part due to negative expectations on both sides. It's become a habit. I have really tried to bread it on my side, but it seems to only take one to have a fight!

(((((F1)))))
You are right, I am using logic, and common sense. It's the engineer/nerd/geek in me, I guess. I know it could blow up, but it is what I have. In general, I think she is pretty predictable, so we'll see.

As far as an OM, I am as sure as I can be that there isn't. Of course, I would not be the first to be wrong about that. But really, her time is awfully well accounted for. And there is nothing at all on her cell phone, though of course she could be hiding one. But never using it that I can tell. A lot of anti-man stuff comes out of her mouth, I get to take the brunt, being one, but I think it is real. She holds a lot of resentment over real and perceived wrongs inflicted on women by men through all of history. And I don't know that there have been a lot that really were against her specifically, except that she probably let expectation control her path through life?

Financial protection wise, the only things I really have are the house, and my 401(k). Both of which are hard to run off with. She has more stuff in account I can't get to than I do, but even that isn't much, and she has expenses coming out of them, so it isn't a big deal. I probably won't like the end result, if things go badly, but in the end, I think I'll be ok. It helps that the older two boys are over 18, and she is working now. That was supposed to be to pay for college tuitions, but that might just have to change. I don't like that idea, but something has to change!

Still thinking. Still considering! Thanks to all of you for your support and advice!