We make a lot of assumptions about OW and what she is thinking. But they are not all the same, and they don't all feel the same. I had my son contact other woman and say whatever he felt. He wasn't nice to her, and I think she got the idea that there was a family that cared if my husband left it. That most certainly was not the same story he had told her. He told her we were practically divorced, just a matter of time. When she realized that she was dating a married man with a family that was not on the road to divorce, she broke up with him. Apparently, she thought he had lied to her. Imagine that.
