I know you're down and defeated right now Frank. Tomorrow you won't feel quite so resigned to the final outcome. Right now your mode is to believe all the things she's said, even though you know what a mistake that is. Right now your mode is to agree with her that you have no future together, even though you know that's not right too.
I'm not sure why you think "that's not right too". Maybe it is. Maybe there is too much hurt over too much time. Why wouldn't you think that is the case?
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It happens because we allow their relative exterior sanity to make us believe that they really are speaking the truth. Their version of events are so incriminating, and we've gotten so little feedback from them in the past, our hungry heart and mind takes it all in and gives it a credibility that, in our right minds, we would know it does not deserve.
Yeah, I talked to a friend who, when he heard the 'two souls' story said she was really not rational if she believes that. And, the 'soul #1 is the one who is in love with you' as opposed to 'WAS in love with you' is a strange comment.
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So let her quit Frank. Doesn't mean you have to buy her load of half-truths and over emphasized faults. Let her quit.
Which means to me that I need to quit on her also. Hard to do.
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One last time, so I'm sure you've read it and understand my message...
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This is not the end. And you do NOT have to be lost. If I had posted this thread TO YOU, you would know JUST what to tell me to do. Think about it.
Yeah, she's not an MLC but she is a lost woman. I need to accept this and only do things that take care of myself from now on. Like my counselor said "How long do you want this to hurt?"
One thing I don't understand is why you or others don't see this as 'the end'. She has shut down, and sees her future being better because we can't heal together. We HAVE had a rough time for years. Not because we didn't love each other though. Because I didn't take care of myself. Neither did she.
Thank you so much for taking the time to post to me.
