Nothing really to tell. Things are pretty much the same in H's world. He's still at home. I know he's planning to leave. I don't know when. We've talked (once, and at my request) regarding his plans to move and how to best tell and help our D's with it. Otherwise, nothing's changed really. He's a little more detached from me, less likely to eat dinner with us and more likely to cook (for himself). I don't know what he's doing, but I don't ask and do not snoop.
I'm in a pretty good place mentally (most of the time). I don't worry about what he's going to do and I'm doing and making plans for myself and our D's. I'm one of the very lucky ones in that he isn't nasty and he's involved with the girls.
The only thing I can say for anyone who reads this and thinks my sitch is very similar to thiers is that my H is conflict avoidant. B/c of this the DB coach I have spoken to has offered that he may be less likely to return once he leaves. Doesn't really matter what anyone (including me) thinks "may" happen. I believe it was Jack and IMP who were posting about how out of 1 in 10,000 M (this is HYPOTHETICAL don't anyone panic and take this out of context, please) all but 1 would reconcile. Sounds great right? Now, I'm the 1. Bummer. Ok, now reverse this and only 1 out of 10,000 would reconcile and again I'm the one. You can see why I've stopped looking at stats and trying to figure out where he is. I won't know the answer until I do wither way. I've got enough time under my belt to believe that whatever happens is what's meant to happen. I have the choice of whether I learn from this and am happy either b/c or in spite of.
Wow, that was a little to philosophical for this early esp without a drink.
