Reclaiming myself and my life, part 2

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I really think I'm most of the reason this didn't work. It takes two to be sure, but she did the best she could and now she's still doing what she thinks is best. Her calm and resolve and my hurt and fear are opposites. I'm codependent, insecure and afraid of losing her.

Maybe she will get a room to rent and move out sooner. That will probably be better and make it easier to let go than it is now. She doesn't think I'll keep the house very long and maybe she's right. she seems to be right about a lot of things that I don't want to be true.

I'm a mess, and I didn't take care of myself. My marriage is over, my kids are broken hearted and my W loves me but sees no reason to try any more. Her heart is closed and she wants someone else to show up in her life who doesn't have these issues.



Frank---I'm so sorry you're hurting.

ONLY YOU know what you feel you can and are willing to do. If you feel you need to give up you have that right.

And if you don't want to give up, you don't have to. There are still other things you can try, but you really have to try them.

EITHER WAY it involves....removing the appearance of neediness. Hiding your broken heart from her and your daughter. It's a tough job. A very big order. And it is truly up to you.