mark, let me just ask you something. if your daughter's husband put her in a position where the only car she had to drive was a high mileage (and I assume possibly unreliable) car, wouldn't you, no matter what, help her attain something safer? Because I'll tell you right now, I would for mine. yes, even if she was having an affair, I still would. add the fact that she has kids involved, and hell yeah.
you are right...she shouldn't need her dad to do this. she shouldn't need you to do it. I'll tell you right now, though, if I were your wife, I would have been on the dealer lot buying a new car the moment you issued your decree.
I understand that you are hurt...of course you are! I understand that you are angry. trust me, btdt. but at the same time, I am worried that you are going to end up consumed and blinded by that anger. You seem to be trying to control so much here, it has to be exhausting for you. I'm worried about you, mark. take that for what its worth, but I'm putting it out there.
take care of yourself. remember the serenity prayer:
God, grant me the Serenity To accept the things I cannot change... Courage to change the things I can, And Wisdom to know the difference.
There is NOTHING you can do to prevent your wife from seeing Shrek. Nothing. Let it go. move on if you are ready to. But don't let yourself be consumed by the anger/hate/resentment.
(((HUGS)))
Last edited by SallyM; 02/16/0808:14 PM.
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"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
